How To Find The Perfect Love
“When one is well physically, spiritually, and emotionally, along with the correct principles one can truly encounter their authentic way of being a supreme being.”
Darrell believes everyone can find a balance to a fruitful, fulfilling, and healthy relationship with some guidance and truthful information.
Country: United StatesLanguage: EnglishGenre: Communication & Social Skills, Emotional Self HelpReleased: October 4, 2021Media type: Print, Kindle Pages: 98
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INTRODUCTION
Broken People Make Broken Relationships
Most of our controllable good fortunes or tragedies we experience as humans are surrounded by or a product of some form of relationship. What befalls us is related to emotional, domestic, or materialistic partnerships even legal or illegal involvement with the law. All controllable experiences are directly linked to the results of a healthy or dysfunctional relationship. When behavior is dysfunctional, it stimulates people’s incompatibility and inability to give healthy emotional and mental responses to life’s situations. All of us around the world have been touched or affected by such tragedies or know someone who has. How to Find the Perfect Love slowly reveals how and why people behave this way. It also uncovers how broken people can recover and function as they were intended to function. I’ve seen and experienced the scars and hurt of broken relationships. The animosity, bitterness, and hatred that result affect the internal walls of individuals and families. In addition, such experiences can move some people to afflict others—sometimes hundreds or even thousands in society—with their unhealthy behaviors, the very behaviors that are behind undeveloped and broken relationships. Relationship is the most important factor in every person’s life. Our relationships affect us in every area of our lives, interpersonal and intrapersonal. Therefore, it is very important that we acquire this information and learn to understand ourselves. That way, we can consciously play a role in healing both ourselves and the social destruction among us all. Understanding the misbehaviors among us, learning how people are intended to function at their best, and knowing how to deal with people at their worst are the keys to solving all social difficulties. Hopefully, How to Find the Perfect Love will reveal a clear understanding of the way we’re truly meant to relate to one another and outline a path we can follow and the actions we can take to engage in meaningful, healthy relationships. The cultural “norms” of behavior are perpetuated through media like TV, news, books, the internet, and other forms. It’s not unusual to see, hear, or act in ways that are unhealthy, engaging in behaviors informed by self-gratitude, anger, jealousy, greed, violence, and so on. This is what our culture demonstrates to be normal conduct, even expected. It’s normal within our culture, but it’s not normal according to our nature. How to Find the Perfect Love will guide you through our culture’s “normal” functioning and way of relating and how people are conditioned to think about and accept these norms. It will clarify how people were truly designed to function when relating to themselves and others. And it will show you how to understand and discover true love.
Broken People Make Broken Relationships
Most of our controllable good fortunes or tragedies we experience as humans are surrounded by or a product of some form of relationship. What befalls us is related to emotional, domestic, or materialistic partnerships even legal or illegal involvement with the law. All controllable experiences are directly linked to the results of a healthy or dysfunctional relationship. When behavior is dysfunctional, it stimulates people’s incompatibility and inability to give healthy emotional and mental responses to life’s situations. All of us around the world have been touched or affected by such tragedies or know someone who has. How to Find the Perfect Love slowly reveals how and why people behave this way. It also uncovers how broken people can recover and function as they were intended to function. I’ve seen and experienced the scars and hurt of broken relationships. The animosity, bitterness, and hatred that result affect the internal walls of individuals and families. In addition, such experiences can move some people to afflict others—sometimes hundreds or even thousands in society—with their unhealthy behaviors, the very behaviors that are behind undeveloped and broken relationships. Relationship is the most important factor in every person’s life. Our relationships affect us in every area of our lives, interpersonal and intrapersonal. Therefore, it is very important that we acquire this information and learn to understand ourselves. That way, we can consciously play a role in healing both ourselves and the social destruction among us all. Understanding the misbehaviors among us, learning how people are intended to function at their best, and knowing how to deal with people at their worst are the keys to solving all social difficulties. Hopefully, How to Find the Perfect Love will reveal a clear understanding of the way we’re truly meant to relate to one another and outline a path we can follow and the actions we can take to engage in meaningful, healthy relationships. The cultural “norms” of behavior are perpetuated through media like TV, news, books, the internet, and other forms. It’s not unusual to see, hear, or act in ways that are unhealthy, engaging in behaviors informed by self-gratitude, anger, jealousy, greed, violence, and so on. This is what our culture demonstrates to be normal conduct, even expected. It’s normal within our culture, but it’s not normal according to our nature. How to Find the Perfect Love will guide you through our culture’s “normal” functioning and way of relating and how people are conditioned to think about and accept these norms. It will clarify how people were truly designed to function when relating to themselves and others. And it will show you how to understand and discover true love.
CHAPTER 1
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE THIS WAY
The media has influenced us, teaching us that normal behavior can be defined as any behavior that’s accepted or typical of any pattern that fits in with others—or not. There are so many different levels of what is “normal” because there is no one set example of what social norms are. Society no longer establishes today’s social norms; rather, we’re told, “Just be you.” Other than societal norms like obeying laws, enrolling kids in school, working, and adhering to common natural laws, society has walked away from the responsibility of social human behavior when it comes to relational interactions between people. Many may believe that society has abandoned the concept of normal social interaction altogether and just accepts that the individual within all of us is unique. This concept has trickled down into all facets of our relationships today—which has a huge impact on normal behavior in everyday life and relationships. Being unique doesn’t mean excusing or ignoring one’s behavior. Rather, to honor uniqueness is to accept that a person is exceptional just as they are. Mainstream media has conditioned many people to believe that uniqueness is found in the details like hair and clothes and so on, along with attitudes and behaviors, and that we must accept each person to embrace their uniqueness. A person’s hair, clothes, and other exterior expressions are just ways in which they’re being different. And yes, people should accept others for their differences. Our behavior, though, is derived from a mindset based on a set of principles. Bad, unhealthy, or disruptive behavior should not be considered unique. Many may not accept or practice this paradigm. It’s not easy to make this distinction. And it’s not typical in today’s culture to function in challenging situations with a rational emotional and mental attitude. Becoming a healthy, whole person is key to experiencing the best life and developing a fruitful and fulfilling relationship with anyone. For many reasons, most people were never taught this. The main reason is that our culture’s focus has been conditioned by the mainstream pressures of social economics. “The social rat race” focuses on finding opportunities and becoming competitive in the search for that “American dream”—a dream of reaching the materialistic success bar—and never focusing on wholly developing oneself, for self, or even recognizing the true value of self. I thank you for allowing me to walk you through it. This has truly been a life’s journey and a lifetime of longing for me. May God bless the readers and followers of this unalterable wealth of information; may it be applicable in your life and your loved one’s lives.
WHY PEOPLE BEHAVE THIS WAY
The media has influenced us, teaching us that normal behavior can be defined as any behavior that’s accepted or typical of any pattern that fits in with others—or not. There are so many different levels of what is “normal” because there is no one set example of what social norms are. Society no longer establishes today’s social norms; rather, we’re told, “Just be you.” Other than societal norms like obeying laws, enrolling kids in school, working, and adhering to common natural laws, society has walked away from the responsibility of social human behavior when it comes to relational interactions between people. Many may believe that society has abandoned the concept of normal social interaction altogether and just accepts that the individual within all of us is unique. This concept has trickled down into all facets of our relationships today—which has a huge impact on normal behavior in everyday life and relationships. Being unique doesn’t mean excusing or ignoring one’s behavior. Rather, to honor uniqueness is to accept that a person is exceptional just as they are. Mainstream media has conditioned many people to believe that uniqueness is found in the details like hair and clothes and so on, along with attitudes and behaviors, and that we must accept each person to embrace their uniqueness. A person’s hair, clothes, and other exterior expressions are just ways in which they’re being different. And yes, people should accept others for their differences. Our behavior, though, is derived from a mindset based on a set of principles. Bad, unhealthy, or disruptive behavior should not be considered unique. Many may not accept or practice this paradigm. It’s not easy to make this distinction. And it’s not typical in today’s culture to function in challenging situations with a rational emotional and mental attitude. Becoming a healthy, whole person is key to experiencing the best life and developing a fruitful and fulfilling relationship with anyone. For many reasons, most people were never taught this. The main reason is that our culture’s focus has been conditioned by the mainstream pressures of social economics. “The social rat race” focuses on finding opportunities and becoming competitive in the search for that “American dream”—a dream of reaching the materialistic success bar—and never focusing on wholly developing oneself, for self, or even recognizing the true value of self. I thank you for allowing me to walk you through it. This has truly been a life’s journey and a lifetime of longing for me. May God bless the readers and followers of this unalterable wealth of information; may it be applicable in your life and your loved one’s lives.